Florence Scovel Shinn
Have you found it's often easier to give than receive? For years it was difficult for me to accept compliments gracefully. I'm not sure where that came from...either a lack of self esteem or a form of false modesty perhaps. Maybe a combination of the two. Whatever it was, at some point, I became aware of it and started working to be more gracious in my acceptance of whatever praise or gift was given.
When you let yourself enjoy the gift of a compliment or an actual gift it feels REALLY good! It's empowering to receive acknowledgement of a talent or particular skill you have or anothers' gratitude for something you've done. Thank them and take it for yourself, tuck it away in your bank of self-approval. I had to practice it for quite some time before it came naturally and I'm sure I still lapse occasionally.
When we are not feeling particularly good about ourselves it may be even more difficult to accept a compliment or gift. On some level, perhaps, we don't feel deserving. That's exactly the reason we should take it in...someone has acknowledged us...cared enough to take their time and energy and give it to us. We are deserving of that and it contributes positively to our feelings of self worth.
Modesty is an admirable quality to possess but when we cross the line into false modesty it's not so pretty. You can spot false modesty quite easily in yourself and others. "Oh, no...not me." "That was nothing." "Oh, no you shouldn't have." And the sad part of that behavior is you deprive the giver of the pleasure of the giving.
Gift giving is usually a joyful experience and when the recipient is happy, thrilled, grateful, touched...whatever...we feel good. They feel good...we feel good. It's a symbiotic experience and we humans are all about the symbiotic experience.
Back and forth, round and round, we all feel good.
Most of us probably subscribe to this wisdom from the Bible, Acts 20:35; "It is more blessed to give than to receive." Besides that being right up there with the Golden Rule, there is probably more inherent pleasure in the act of giving than receiving. But it is also important for us to behave graciously and take that goodness ALL the way into us when accepting compliments and gifts.
Thank you for reading this.
Stay open to receive.